You know when you find a special person, for keeps and decide that you want to have them around forever, it means that you should start considering asking for their hand in marriage. Getting your fiancée an engagement ring is a way to show your love and commitment.
There are a ton of different gold engagement rings out there and choosing the right one can feel overwhelming. But don’t worry – we have put together a list of things you should and shouldn’t do for a perfect proposal. Keep reading to find out more.
The Dos and Don’ts
The Dos of Proposing
1. Involve the right people
If you are super traditional, you should ask for blessings from your family and hers. Traditionally, the bride-to-be’s dad is the one who gives the blessings. If he is deceased you can reach out to her uncle, elder brother, guardian, or any other relevant person. However, this step is not mandatory so if your fiancée is untraditional you can skip it.
Another way to involve people who matter to her is ensuring that people she cares about are present at the proposal. If she’s introverted, it can be just the two of you but enjoys being the center of attention you can include family, friends, and a cheering squad. If you want all the family members to be there you can propose to her during the holidays.
2. Pick the ring
The ring is probably the most important piece of the whole thing. If you haven’t talked to your girlfriend about the kind of ring she’d want, you can ask a sibling or a trusted friend for help. She might have mentioned her preferences to them. If she hasn’t you can do all that undercover work yourself and find the clues.
3. Choose a location
The location you choose can make or break your proposal. Choose the location wisely but don’t let it block your creativity. If you feel that the available options are limiting you can always opt for another location.
By choosing a meaningful location we don’t mean that you have to go into debt to fly your sweetheart to Paris. No. what we mean is that you should pick a location that means something to you two. It could be as simple as the restaurant where you had your first date.
4. Make it personal
What’s one thing that your fiancée loves doing? Once you have the answer to that question, find a way to incorporate it into the proposal. For example, if she enjoys going to the movies, you can center your proposal around that. Propose to her when you’re at the theater watching her favorite movie.
Pay attention to the small details that she wouldn’t expect you to remember. Think back to all the sentimental moments – they are the icing on the cake!
5. Decide if the proposal will be private or public
Not everyone likes to be in the spotlight. This applies to men and women alike.
Most women prefer that they be proposed to in a private setting. Sometimes a huge crowd can cause her to panic and not know what to say. However, if you are absolutely sure that’s how she wishes that her proposal is like, you can propose to her in a public setting. Be sure to do some digging first but if you’re in doubt, play it safe (very few people).
6. Capture the moment
The moment your wife-to-be says yes will be one of the most important moments in your life. Ensure that you have someone around to take pictures and videos. This way you can tell your kids about this moment many years to come. You can also share these on your social media pages as a way of passing the good news to your friends.
If you have the budget for a professional photographer, ensure that he/she remains completely unseen until she’s aware of the proposal.
The Don’ts of Proposing
1. Don’t copy basic YouTube videos
Ensure that the proposal is unique to you two. At least put some thought and planning into the proposal so that it goes beyond the cliché proposals that we see every day on the internet. If you are stuck but are looking to give your girlfriend unparalleled memories, hire a proposal planner. He/she will make sure that the proposal is executed flawlessly from start to finish.
2. Don’t make it about you
Sometimes a guy could have a cool idea that once implemented, turn out to be not what his fiancée wanted. Think about how your proposal will cater to her desires rather than your own. For example, just because you’re a sports fanatic it doesn’t mean that she would love it if you proposed to her in a stadium.
Looks like you’ve decided that it’s time to make things official – congratulations!
By now you’ve seen each other at their best and worst and are sure that it’s time to pop the question. Surviving all that life has thrown your way is a huge sign that you should take your relationship to the next level. Just remember that there’s no wrong way to ask someone to marry you. However, there are ways you can make the proposal special for you and your loved one. We hope that the tips we gave you help make your big day blissful.