Our pride refuses to be associated with the societal implications of being an addict, not to mention the larger implications of weakness just asking for help. We have to correct this thinking. As stated by drug treatment experts Aion, “Recover is a critical step towards living a healthy and meaningful life away from the harmful effect…”
Unable to Act
Many substance abusers feel there is no addiction, even as their lives fall in ruin. We can see the fear, shame and disgust around us. We’ll hate ourselves but refuse to give in to vulnerability.
There’s accountability. To ask for help, we have to admit there’s a problem and unwarranted pride gets in the way. As former abusers say, taking responsibility is the first step.
It’s unfortunate many of us wait until our lives have hit bottom before we see there needs to be change. To effect change, we have to realize we need help. Then we have to ask for it.
Why We Won’t Ask
Our minds tell us we don’t need help. We’re fooling ourselves.
There’s a stigma attached to admitting you’re an abuser. It’s an extension of letting the world know you lack the discipline to control yourself. We don’t want our families, friends and colleagues to see us as weak, let alone addicts.
Not until you get past the idea that you don’t want anyone to know — even when they do! — will you realize it’s okay to ask for help.
Our pride is a hindrance. It takes real courage to admit your life is going in the wrong direction. It takes strength to face the fear and open yourself to the world. It will be important to tell yourself you’ve made mistakes. Now you want to correct them. But you need help.
Fear of Rejection
“No” is the most destructive word an addict can hear. We may worry that if we ask for help that will be the reaction. Remind yourself to not take it personally. You cannot control how anyone feels about the way you’ve hurt them. And you have no right to expect them to help you. Hold no resentment. Never forget this is your journey. Ask someone else, find someone else. There’s someone ready to help you.
Ask for Help
First realize asking isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s showing courage. It’s not about being rejected, it’s about finding acceptance.
A good idea may be to write a letter. Pour out your thoughts. This will give you standing for where to start when it’s time to ask.
Talk with someone with similar experiences. This is why addicts walk into AA or NA. If you have a recovering friend or family member, turn to them. Someone who’s been there will understand.
Talk with your doctor. They can treat you and help lay out the next steps. Don’t forget online resources. From Facebook to AA chat rooms, forums to teleconferencing, get on the path. Get information and confidence and be proud you’re finally asking for help with drug abuse … and getting it.