Almost 25% of American adults aren’t having sex.
If you and your partner aren’t having as much sex as you would like, then it’s time to do something about it.
Firstly, you need to make sure you’re both feeling good before you make a move. So, in this article, we’ll look at a few things you can do to set the mood. Let’s get started:
1. Do Something Romantic
You know your partner better than anyone, so you should know what they find romantic and sweet.
Perhaps this is doing all of the household chores, maybe it’s cooking a romantic dinner, or is it buying a beautiful bunch of flowers? Maybe it’s all three!
Doing something nice for your partner will help them see you in another light. They’ll regard you as a helpful and romantic partner, rather than a roommate who sleeps in the same bed.
2. Let Your Partner Know You’re in the Mood
When you’re working, it can be very hard to feel in the mood after a very long, hard day. So, try to focus on a self-care evening and plan your sexual intercourse.
Sure, it doesn’t sound very romantic to make a sex plan, but this way you’ll both know what’s coming and can be mentally prepared in advance. Alternatively, let your partner know you’re thinking about having sex with them by sending them a cheeky sext mid-afternoon.
3. Focus on a Relaxing Evening
This could be sitting down together, without phones, and having a long chat over a glass of wine. You may also choose to have a bath together and then wrap yourselves up in large towel robes.
Do something romantic such as combining each other’s hair, putting lotion on each other’s bodies, and giving each other massages. This will very quickly lead to sex!
4. Choose the Right Lighting
If you’re trying to set the mood, then you need to make sure you have the right lighting! This could be a dozen candles, but it may be a little messy. You also need to remember to blow them out before you get frisky.
You could simply choose to dim the lights if this is possible in your home or opt for lamps that cast a red glow. Alternatively, check out this colonial lighting which will help instantly set the mood.
5. Play Some Sensual Music
Depending on your music tastes, you may find jazz romantic or something a little more poppy. Based on your and your partner’s preferences, create a playlist on Spotify and put this on one evening.
Hopefully, they will notice this romantic or sexy music and feel touched that you’ve put together a playlist.
Once the music is playing, the lights are dimmed, and you’ve both got a glass of wine in hand, you’ll soon be feeling in the mood. Why not also try slow dancing to your favorite song together?
6. Make the Bed with Satin or Silk Sheets
Nothing says sex like a bed made up with sexy, soft sheets. You may need to invest in these sheets and do it as a surprise for your partner.
But nothing screams elegance and sophistication like a tidy bedroom made up with some beautiful touches. The feel of silk and satin sheets on your skin is sure to set you in a sensuous mood.
Furthermore, consider also buying cheeky underwear or lingerie to match! Your partner won’t be able to keep their hands off you in this new outfit.
7. Buy Some Sexy Games
After a quick browse on an adult website, you will find that there are hundreds of inventions to get you both in the mood.
This could be a sexy pack of cards, never have I ever, strip poker, or sex dice. Why not invest in a few games and ask your partner whether they want to play?
This is a fun way to get you both feeling adventurous. You may also want to consider buying toys for the bedroom such as a vibrator and nipple clamps or a feather boa!
8. Set Some Bedroom Rules
In order to make your bedroom more sensual, it’s a good idea to talk to your partner and set bedroom rules together.
For example, perhaps you should remove the TV if you always find yourselves flopping into bed, only to turn it on. Maybe you should invest in an alarm clock instead of having your phone on your bedside table.
Finally, consider trying to get into bed half an hour to an hour before you need to go to sleep. This will give you time to look into each other’s eyes, cuddle, kiss, and chat every night.
Couples that cuddle are more likely to have more sex. They also have a stronger bond and are happier! You’ll even find yourself feeling less stressed at work if you make time to be intimate, not just sexual, with your partner.
9. Go Out Together
Sometimes setting the mood is as simple as getting out of the house. This is especially the case if you have kids as your home can quickly feel like a workplace rather than a sexy or relaxing environment.
To combat this, why not book a weekend away together where you can properly relax? Try to do this regularly to see huge benefits in your relationship.
You might want to consider booking a hotel that also offers spa treatments and delicious dinners. Otherwise, a basic hotel where you can stay in bed all weekend and focus on good conversation and sex will also do the trick! Remember to bring candles!
Now You Know How to Set the Mood
After reading this article, you should feel more clued up on how to set the mood and get both you and your partner feeling excited about getting intimate.
Sometimes the solution requires more thought, such as bringing in lighting, music, and toys, and other times a simple massage is all you need to get frisky.
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